Accepting to Improve your Personal Life 

Do you have the ability to accept the things you can change and the things you cannot change? Do you have the ability to accept that other people are opt to change them, rather than you changing them? Do you accept that you are who you are, regardless of what others think? Can you accept the many changes that take place in your life?

If you answered yes to one or all of these questions then you are off to a good start in improving your personal life. If you are willing to accept, you have the ability to laugh, even when something is not funny. For instance, if someone pushed you, you could stand back and laugh. The push is only a threat to your emotion, which you will see, accept and find a way to gain control of the situation. 

28th April 2010 - Time: 15:03

Gordon Brown today has made a major gaff not just from his comments but also if you look at the news footage when he is answering Gillian Duffy's question even before calling her  "A bigotted woman", he was using a wagging finger up and down symbolically beating down her questions and arguments, which he then he changed to a clenched fist with his thumb over the top again showing dominance and force.

Later he appeared on the BBC radio with Jeremy Vine who confronted him and played it back while the PM was made him listen in full view of the studio camera, whilst listening his body and shoulders were slumped, his left hand covering his eyes, breathing heavily and then using a very low tone of voice, a completely crumpled man at this point.

After the media interest he then went to Gillian Duffy's home to apologies in person and appeared on her doorstep all smiles, which did look genuine for the most part, a relieved man that he managed to placate her somewhat and hopefully quosh the immense media circus surrounding him right now.

Tonight sees the first of three historic live debates between the three main party leaders Gordon Brown, David Cameron and Nick Clegg. 

All week I've been doing interviews as to what we should be looking for in the body language of the three as they perform tonight so here is your - Rough Guide to Political Body Language.

I'm going to ask you to guess what the answer is to this question:

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The bad news is that the WORDS you use aren't important... if you don't FIRST understand BODY LANGUAGE.

"Why's That?" they ask.

Simple, really.

A woman makes DOZENS of different INSTANT and UNCONSCIOUS assumptions about you within the first SECONDS that she meets you.

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Macroexpressions last from ½ second to 4 seconds: we see them in our daily interactions with people all of the time.

Microexpressions last less than ½ second: they occur when people are consciously or unconsciously trying to conceal or repress what they are feeling. Most people report that they don’t see microexpressions, however research has shown that people can be taught to spot these relatively easily: with training, in about an hour.

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Subtle expressions are associated with the intensity of the emotion, not the time the emotion moves on and off the face. Subtle expressions occur when a person is just starting to feel an emotion, or when their emotional response to a situation, another person or the environment around them is of low intensity. Recently published research showed a high correlation between recognizing subtle expressions and being able to detect deceit.

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Why Focus on the Face?

Nonverbal behavior is a major component of communication, and facial expressions of emotion are the most important and complex signal system humans have.

Research has documented the existence of seven universally expressed and recognized facial expressions of emotion (joy, sadness, fear, surprise, anger, contempt and disgust). The impact of this finding is immense: all people – regardless of race, culture, ethnicity, age, gender or religion – express these emotions in the face in exactly the same ways.

Reading signs of emotion in the form of macroexpressions, microexpressions and subtle expressions is an important skill for effective communication. The ability to accurately read emotions in others is extremely important to establishing relationships, building rapport, eliciting information, negotiation and many other purposes.

This skill has an immediate and powerful benefit for those who conduct interviews or interrogations, are involved in business transactions, perform law enforcement or security, provide health care or participate in the legal system.
Facial Expression Attributes, Type and DescriptionAttribute Type Description
Speed Macroexpressions These are emotional expressions that occur in normal discourse. When a person has an emotion and there’s no reason for the person to conceal his or her feelings, expressions go on and off the face between 0.5 and 4-5 seconds.
Speed Microexpressions These are signs of concealed emotions. They are very rapid, occurring less than 0.5 seconds, and often for 1/5th or even 1/15th of a second.
Signal Clarity Full Face These are expressions that involve all of the facial muscles associated with the prototypical, full-face configurations, often involving the areas above the brows, the eyes and cheeks, and the lower face.
Partial Expressions These are expressions that involve components of full-face expressions, being shown ONLY in the brows, or eyes and cheeks, or lower face.
Angle Frontal You see the whole face from the front.
Angle ¾ You see the face from the front at a 45-degree angle.
Angle Profile You see the face from the side at a 90 degree angle
Intensity Strong These are moderate to high intensity expressions, corresponding to FACS intensity codes C through E
Intensity Subtle These are low intensity expressions that appear very slightly, corresponding to FACS intensity codes A and B
Distance Close These are images sizes that correspond to social interactions between intimate or familiar interactants
Distance Medium These are image sizes that correspond to social interactions among acquaintances and strangers
Distance Far These are image sizes that correspond to viewing faces in public or at a distance

For more information go to the Training section.

So How Can Men and Women Handle These Differences?

Men and women are from different planets, or so we’re told. Anytime the discussion turns to gender differences, no matter what the topic, it’s easy to fall into old stereotypes and old assumptions about men and women. The truth is that when it comes to body language there are indeed differences between the genders. This does not mean one gender is inherently “better” or “worse” than the other is; it just means they have different tendencies and characteristics.

What Are The Differences Between Men and Women?
Body language differences between men and woman show up in two primary ways. There are differences in behaviours as well as differences in the purpose behind their behaviours. Some of these differences are thanks to nature; that is, they are “pre-programmed” into each gender. Others, however, are learned through experience and can differ greatly from one culture to another.


For instance, women are generally more likely to display nurturing behaviours, show emotions, and let their feelings come through. Men, on the other hand, are generally more likely to display behaviours of power, dominance, and assertiveness. In the modern world, however, these general tendencies are subject to far more variability than ever before. This is due to increased acceptance and comfort with each gender displaying non-typical body language in many different situations.


Despite this increase in freedom to display non-typical body language, there are still some general differences between men and women. The two most common are:
Differences in receiving messages – Women tend to be better at receiving body language messages, especially when it comes to noticing inconsistencies between body language and verbal language.
Differences in sending messages – Men tend to be less skilled at using subtle body language to influence communication without seeming to be doing so at all.
There are actual physical reasons for these differences. For example, women process messages using up to 16 different parts of their brain at once, while men process messages using about six or 7 different parts of their brain at once. Neither is better than the other is, but each processing pattern does influence the receiving and sending of messages based on gender.


So How Can Men and Women Handle These Differences?
As with most things divided up along gender lines, the body language differences between men and women are best used as general guidelines. They are a starting point, if you will, for engaging in interactions and going through the process of establishing rapport, building trust, and the like. They are only a starting point, however, because interpreting and understanding body language requires a great deal of observation and simply getting to know the characteristics of the other person.

Greater awareness and understanding of differences can also help a great deal in preventing different interpretations of body language or, when those different interpretations occur, in resolving potential conflicts and misunderstandings. The key is to be respectful of differences and not belittle or judge either gender based on body language issues. When both men and women make a point of sharing each other’s perspectives and learning from those differences, both genders learn to better interpret and understand the non-verbal communication of the other.

Reproduced courtesy of www.BodyLanguageExpert.co.uk - how to read and use body language